>>93
You're right.
Here goes some general advice.
Diet & How to get rid of unwanted muscle:
Many of you could find you've got "big arms/shoulders/upper back" That's of course not very femenine. Here's the simplest way to get rid of it : diet
The diet will consist of
A good, reliable multivitamin & multimineral. Most of you won't have a balanced diet so this will be necessary
Flaxseed/fish oil. Capsules preferably, no more than 6-7 grams/day
Protein: about 0'5 grams pr kg of weight.
Carbohydrates: You want these low, a high carbohydrate intake makes your body release tons of insulin, which is the one of the hormones the body uses to store fat and build muscle. Most people do well around 40% of daily cals on carbs
Fat: fill with fats the calories you need to complete your intake. Make sure most of these are healthy fats, but some of these are "unhealthy" ( I hate this term since colesterol is necessary for some important functions)
Calories: This will depend on your size, weight and level of activity. Here's a calculator, fill the numbers and find how much you burn a day, then take as many as possible WITHOUT GOING BELOW YOUR BMR (this will slow your metabolism while you're dieting and you don't want this, this is the main cause of the yo-yo effect)
Calculate your daily intake here:
http://www.exrx.net/Calculators/CalRequire.html
From the number you obtain, take as much as you want WITHOUT GOING BELOW YOUR BMR calories (upper right corner on that screen).
And don't start with a monstruous deficit of say, 800 kcal (more than enough to burn muscle). Start with a small deficit of, say, 100 kcal, and build to the total deficit in 2 weeks in small increments, this way your body will be able to adapt better to it.
Normal diets don't tell you to take out as many calories (they usually go on the 500 kcal range), but normal diets are made to preserve your muscle mass, which is what we don't want. Oh, and by normal diets I mean good ones, not the shit tier attacks against health performed by women magazines under names like "the watermelon diet" or "the X calories diet". A diet should always be tailored to the dieter's daily calorie expenditure and lifestyle.
General tips:
-AVOID red meat: increases your testosterone.
-Protein in vegetables is usually shit iter and won't be absorved by the body (it's incomplete and has low bioavailability) so be careful with soy as a protein soruce.
-You want your proteins low, but you still want protein: You want to destroy muscle, but you want to preserve vital organs right? Don't worry, your body is smart, most protein will go to repair organs. Don't neglect your protein intake.
But not all muscles are bad, sure you want a tasty and meaty bottom, right? There's a way to preserve it: exercise those muscles while you diet (moar about this in the next chapter). This way your body will think those muscles are still necessary and will make an effort to preserve them.
In the other side, try to use the muscles you don't want as little as you can. If your body doesn't use them enough, they will become the primary source of protein for any other uses (and thus, they will start to shrink).
Be careful with how fat you are, you don't want any health problems, so check your bf% (body fat %) with a caliper (you can buy these online for liek 5 dollars) or try one of those bioimpedance machines, but they're a little inaccurate, and you should measure your fat always in the same conditions with those ( I.e.: always after having had the same meals and having drank the same amount of water) so results are stable and reliable.
AND NEVER go below 7% of your mass in fat. Yes, this means you may have to gain some weight to lose some muscle after.
And drink lots of water at least 3 liters a day. Most people goes around with some nice liquid retention, and ironically this is because they don't drink enough (if the body doesn't get enough water, starts to store it since it "thinks" you're in through some dry season, blame evolution). This water tip can, and usually will, slim your legs and belly faster than diet.
The final tip is, after you've dieted the muscle out of you, you'll be confronted with your true body shape, the structure your bones, proportions and internal organs give to your body. Once you know this, use the image attached to find what kind of clothes will look better on you. Since biology is biology, you'll probably have one of the first 3 figures or the last.
Those are general guidelines, maybe your case is different, and this is not dogma. Do wathever you want or need, but do it wisely and take my words with some caution.